Changing My Mind

So, regarding my last post about ‘A Walk at the Lake,’ Vickie asked a question that reminded me of something I thought about when I was at Tahoe, and have thought about a great deal since that day.  Thought I would share those thoughts with you, starting with Vickie’s question, and my reply to her (in case you missed it in the comments section.)

Vickie:  “It sounds lovely. do you find yourself thinking about how far you have come to be able to do this? or is this something you would have done ‘before’???”

Debby:  “Yes, Vickie. I thought about two things up at Tahoe. First I thought about ALL the ‘treats’ we used to eat when we went up there as kids. It seems that sweets were such a big part of travel anywhere for me. So its still a danger in one way for me to travel. But I am getting so much better. I had packed my own food for the day, including special snacks in case I needed them. I did allow myself to get a soft-serve cone after the walk.”

“Then I thought about the many times I would come up here as an overweight adult, and basically I would just come and sit on a bench by the lake, with long pants on, and never get near the lake, and then get in the car and go home. So I sure did think about the fact that I was wearing shorts and a t-shirt, and that I went specifically to get a lot of exercise. It really did feel great. I hope I will make more time to do that kind of thing this summer.”

So, what I have thought about so much since then, is ALL THIS THINKING I HAVE TO DO!  But at the end of the thinking about the thinking (can you tell I live alone and have entirely too much time to myself) this was my conclusion:  Really, it is a 40 year habit you are trying to break, so there is going to be a lot of thinking and ‘acting on the thinking’ involved in changing the 40 year habit.  And one day, maybe it will be a new habit, and  the new way of doing things will come naturally.  But in the meantime, the way I feel really is worth all the thinking I have to do.

I had a couple of interesting conversations about this.  In talking to my sister, I told her about going to Lake Tahoe, and of course she completely knew what I was talking about when I talked about all the treats and food associated with a trip to Tahoe.  But her reaction really encouraged me.  She said incredulously, “So, you really went to Lake Tahoe just to take a walk??”  And I thought, Yah, I really am making some serious changes around here.

Then, in talking to my best friend about this, and explaining all the above, she commented, “yeah, I remember when we went to Eureka for that quilting retreat [about 4 years ago] that you remembered a restaurant that you had eaten at when you visited there as a kid.  That was really very different.”  So she just confirmed to me how very much enjoying food had been a major part of travel for me.  And to be fair to my  parents, there were LOTS of other happy memories associated with our family vacations that didn’t have anything to do with food.  But we were a food-lovin’ bunch of people!  (BTW, I still think about that place in Eureka, and I WILL get their garlic fries the next time I go through there!)

Here’s a quote that I just loved, and it applied to this topic, so thought I’d share it with you.  By way of Roni’s website, and quoted by Pastaqueen!  A quote from Henry Ford:  “Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.”

4 thoughts on “Changing My Mind

  1. Great post, Debby.

    We treat travel like an opportunity for fun food, too. I am going to rethink that a bit as it relates to the kids, esp. my daughter, b/c she is SO into sweets & treats, it makes me a little nervous. I didn’t travel anywhere when I was a kid (I think my parents just didn’t have enough money–I grew up in the recession of the 70s & 80s) so I don’t have food associations with travel as a kid. But as an adult, I have LOTS of food associations with travel. I never thought of it messing with my kiddos’ futures in relation to food.

    Food is so freaking complicated, isn’t it? We are blessed to live in such a plentiful country–I certainly would not welcome the alternative!–but it is a catch 22 when it comes to the easy accessibility to food, esp. processed foods.

    And it is just too cool that you have made such dramatic changes in your life. Wow.

  2. very very cool on the serious changes

    Im a firm believer that youve done the hard part—the MAKING of the change
    as they quickly become part of who you are and no longer require—-as they once SO DID for me—-Herculean effort 🙂

  3. I don’t remember food being part of vacation plans much, usually we went camping (I was in my early 20s the first time I stayed in a hotel!), and had the usual camp food – hot dogs, chips, etc. So vacation/travel food doesn’t hold much in the way of memories for me.

    Having said that, since most of my family lives close by, every event we have now is centered around food. We can’t get together without it being some kind of food orgy, and frankly I’m tired of it. When we had our 4th of July party, there was so much food there that it was a little embarassing. I’ve been trying to suggest other things like, let’s go to a movie, or go bowling, or let’s just have something simple and easy and then the focus isn’t on the big spread on the table. My mom is a little bit OCD, so it’s hard for her NOT to do what she’s always done, but I think she would be relieved to not work so hard on meals.

    Laura is right, food is complicated. I don’t want it to be the center of my life, and for the most part, it isn’t anymore. But when I am around family who still get such great FULFILLMENT from food, it’s hard to not get sucked into that mentality.

    It’s great that you have made changes, and can recognize that it is working for you. Keep it up!!

  4. my nephew comes for two weeks every summer. the kids made a listing of things to do while he was here and there were two food “events” added to the MANY physical activities on that list. The two food things were try new shake at Wendy’s and make some-mores on firepit. And the second was also a physical activity as they had to trim branches from the yard’s “wood” pile and build the fire. The other things on the list included paddle boats, water park, goofy golf, race car track (the little ones that you drive), movies, bowling, swimming every day, horseback riding, etc. So special food wasn’t a daily event – it was TWO things on a long list of physical activities. And I have to say that I NOTICED that and it did feel good to me.

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